Self improvement

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How to stop being naive

Naivety means showing a general lack of real-life experience, judgment, or wisdom due to going through too few life events.

As a result, gullible people are the perfect victim to fall prey to individuals looking to misuse them for their gain since they don’t recognize the surrounding threats.

That’s why I compiled the following list to learn how to stop being naive, so we can protect ourselves from those who are looking to take advantage of us.

— Be cautious.
— Be present in the moment.
— Practice objectivity.
— Do your research.
— Engage in active listening.
— Talk less, listen more.
— Seek out novel experiences.
— Be alert.
— Learn to read others.
— Travel more.
— Meet people from different backgrounds.
— Have confidence in your abilities.
— Learn to recognize signs of dishonesty.
— Volunteer.
— Get out of your comfort zone.
— Think before acting.
— Don’t ignore your gut feeling.
— Continue to trust people, despite possible setbacks.

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Why like attracts like-minded people

Ever wondered why positive people tend to attract optimistic individuals and negativity tends to breed, and draw in pessimistic folks? It’s because like attracts like-minded people.

Let me explain why that’s the case.

— What you give, you receive.
— We dislike and repel different mindsets while attracting like-minded attitudes.
— We search for similar qualities in others.
— Energy attracts.

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How to stop being defensive

The best things to do to stop being defensive are:

— Understanding what triggers you.
— Anticipating your triggers.
— Not automatically assuming the worst.
— Not taking things personally.
— Practicing a continuous growth mindset.
— Being compassionate.
— Practicing active listening.
— Setting boundaries.
— Asking how you can aid.
— Taking responsibility.
— Seeking out clarifications.
— Fixing the concerns.
— Remind yourself of your values.
— Seeing criticism as a chance to grow.
— Not starting criticizing back out of pettiness.
— Remaining calm.
— Not interrupting others.
— Accepting other people’s perspectives.
— Knowing your limits.

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20 Signs you’re complaining too much

These are the 20 most common signs that you’re complaining too much:

— You’re constantly complaining.
— People are pointing out that you complain a lot.
— You’re venting without finding, or even trying to find solutions.
— You ruminate a lot.
— People avoid you.
— You always see the glass as half empty.
— You’re typically in a negative mood.
— You have a negative outlook on life.
— You claim that you’re simply being realistic.
— You’re irritable after venting.
— You spend a lot of time with other complainers.
— You surround yourself with negative people.
— You’re too hard on yourself.
— Everything has to be perfect, it’s never good enough.
— You feel hopeless and helpless.
— You tend to dwell on what happened in the past.
— You think of problems instead of solutions.
— You compare yourself to others too much.
— You don’t handle compliments well.
— You think everyone’s out to get you.

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The quote, “life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” By George Bernard Shaw.

Why life is about creating yourself instead of finding yourself

Life is about creating yourself instead of finding yourself for a couple of main reasons:

— We’re born imperfect.
— Not all our value is predetermined by birth.
— Life is difficult, and we have to develop ourselves.
— We have to learn many lessons.
— Failure and mistakes are required to get better.

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The quote, “if there is no struggle there is no progress” written on a tombstone. Quote by Frederick Douglas.

Why there is no progress if there is no struggle in life

If there is no struggle, there is no progress means that difficulties and challenging times are necessary if we wish to develop ourselves because they motivate, and force us to improve.

That’s because hardships are uncomfortable and anxiety-provoking. These are sensations that we wish to avoid by actively bettering ourselves to the point where we can deal with these situations more effectively.

Here’s why there is no progress if there is no struggle:

— Struggle means we have to progress to deal with the situation.
— Provides ample opportunities to learn.
— We learn more from difficult circumstances than easy times.
— We gain valuable new insights.
— Struggle allows us to figure out what doesn’t work.
— We have to think critically and self-reflect to solve the issue.

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Why we control our own fate in life

I believe that we control our fate and destiny. Up until a certain point that is.

While I do think that we can influence a lot more in our lives than most of us realize, all of us are still limited by the natural limitations placed upon us from birth by our genes.

For instance, someone with an average IQ is unlikely to become a Nobel Prize winner, just like someone very short will probably never play at the highest level of basketball.

Still, that doesn’t mean that the average Joe can’t do a lot of good in the world, and improve their knowledge, nor that the shorter people can’t become proficient at basketball by honing their skills.

It simply means that a portion of our existence is predetermined by factors we can’t control. Not to mention that chance plays a role as well in the form of fortune and bad luck.

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Why failure is the stepping stone to success

Most people view failure as something they can’t possibly live down, and as something so negative that they should avoid it at all cost.

Yet, failure is the stepping stone to success since it motivates us to learn new things, allows us to figure out what doesn’t work, and because it teaches us to evolve to deal with these difficulties.

Here’s why:

— Motivates us to learn.
— By figuring out what doesn’t work.
— Develops essential skills such as discipline, perseverance, and working hard.
— It’s a natural part of life.
— It takes pressure to build a diamond.

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Why pressure makes diamonds

People are hardwired to take the easy way out and to prevent challenging situations from occurring because they cost a lot of energy while inducing feelings of anxiety.

Yet, that isn’t always beneficial. It can even be incredibly detrimental to our personal growth. Pressure makes diamonds, which means that difficult times and stress will teach us many lessons, and force us to improve to deal with these hardships.

Here’s why:

— It leads to growth
— It motivates us to improve
— We learn the most from difficult times
— We learn more from failure and mistakes
— Easy times don’t lead to growth

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Why you should never argue with a fool

Everyone knows someone impossible to deal with in an argument. Not because they’re particularly good at debating, but rather because they’re so absurd that there’s simply nothing to gain from the conversation.

You should never argue with fools since they’re incapable of rational thought, or applying common sense, and because they’re downright ignorant at times.

Here are all the other possible reasons:

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