Why like attracts like-minded people


Kevin Mangelschots

Ever wondered why those who are positive tend to attract optimistic people, while negativity gravitates towards breeding and drawing in pessimistic folks? It’s because like attracts like-minded people.

Here’s why that’s the case.

  1. What you give, you receive

    We’re disposed to receive what we give. That’s why it probably doesn’t come as a surprise that we lean toward enticing individuals who are quite similar to our own character.

    For instance, those who are loving and caring favor luring empathic and compassionate souls. On the contrary, our peers who have a negative outlook on life will most likely attract pessimistic folks.

  2. We dislike and repel different mindsets while attracting like-minded attitudes

    We usually dislike attitudes that vary too much from our own. As a result, we’re inclined to repel those we consider to be too different from our character.

    On the flip side, individuals with personalities akin to our own are the ones we’re apt to appeal to.

    That’s because we’ll probably end up enjoying them the most since these similar ethics, values, and personalities make it much more feasible that we’ll get along just fine with one another.

  3. We search for similar qualities in others

    Because we desire matching qualities, we’re actively and even unintentionally searching for folks who we consider to be kindred spirits and who exhibit corresponding attributes.

    And while that might not come as a surprise, that does mean that we potentially miss out on new perspectives that we could and should employ in our lives to improve our existence.

    That’s because what we need to know the most commonly lies in the unknown. 

  4. Energy attracts

    Two similar stick men being attracted to each other by a magnet.

    In physics, energies that vibrate at the same frequency are attracted to one another. This is no different concerning human beings.

    Like the famous German-born theoretical physicist Albert Einstein once famously said, “Everything is energy, and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.”

    This shows that individuals who resonate with a similar vibe are involuntarily drawn to each other.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

What does like attracts like mean?

Image of two black women wearing the same clothes, with the same hairstyle embracing each other.
Like attracts like means that similar things are attracted to each other. In other words, we lean toward liking people who are similar to us. Be it in looks, status, values, ethics, and/or nature.
Not only do we feel drawn to similar properties, but it also conveys that our thoughts are tilted toward leading to similar outcomes.

It also creates the basis for the law of attraction, suggesting that what we decide to bring into the world is what we will receive in return. Whatever energy we radiate, is also what others will give back to us.

Examples of like attracts like

A possible example is when positive people who aim to see the best in others attract peers who also possess affirmative and cheery qualities.

Another potential illustration is that extroverted individuals are probably going to lure other outgoing and sociable folks as friends and partners since they’re so alike and sloped to search for compatible people.

Why do you attract what you think?

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In my personal experience, we attract what we think because we unconsciously carry our thoughts into reality through our actions. It’s incredibly difficult to behave differently from our core beliefs.
As such, we will typically pull in what we’re thinking rather than what we’re trying to portray to the outside world, and what we might consequently be trying to conceal.

Why do you attract what you are, and not what you want?

We mostly attract what we are, and not what we want because we’re liable to behave according to what we think, and believe to be true.

That means that if we desire something differently than what we are, it’s unlikely that we’re going to get it because simply wanting something isn’t enough to make us worthy of acquiring that gift.

We must conduct ourselves in a manner that makes us deserving of obtaining what we so desire.

Final note

Image of birds flocking together and sitting on electricity wires.

Birds of a feather flock together. Thus, it’ll come as no surprise that people are attracted to others akin to themselves.

While that’s perfectly fine and reasonable, we should be careful not to discard varied perspectives simply because those people might be, and feel, different from ourselves.

Remember that we tend to receive what we give. So it’s even in our own best interest to generate positivity and love if we wish to get the same in return.