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Mental health

Comprehensive guide to beat anxiety and phobia

Most of us, if not all, have probably experienced anxiety, and perhaps even a phobia at some point in our lives.

It is a common problem that’s negatively impacting many people’s life. That’s exactly why I created this comprehensive guide to beat anxiety and phobia, so you can live your life optimally.

Why is it that we experience these negative emotions? Where do those feelings originate from, and do they have any utility at all? Let’s find out.

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Mental health

Ultimate guide to improve your health

Being healthy covers many aspects such as being physically active, sleeping well, eating clean, and watching our weight among many other things.

Luckily, there’s much we can do to improve our wellbeing. Let’s find out how to improve our health.

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Depression self test (based on the DSM-V)

Comprehensive guide to beat depression

Depression is often called the “silent killer.” And for good reason.

It is a terrible disease that often goes unnoticed by other people. Hence, its name.

You feel bad all the time and have no motivation to do anything. No goals, no desire to get out of bed, constantly ruminating, and your mind constantly filled with dark and negative thoughts.

That’s why we need a comprehensive guide that can teach us how to beat depression by treating the multiple facets that it impacts at the same time. Both physically and mentally.

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Mental health

My experience with depression

Depression is also known by some as the silent killer, and for good reasons.

Little did I know I was going to find out firsthand why this disease was called this way.

Because early on in my life, before the age of 16, everything was perfect. I did well in school, had loving parents, and in general, a caring family. I had a lot of friends at school and excelled at sports.

Things were easy back then. The only ounce of responsibility I had was making sure I passed school.

But around the age of 16, things started to take an unfortunate turn for the worse. Let me explain why.

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Why birds of a feather flock together

Taking literally, birds of a feather flock together to protect and defend themselves against possible predators, since it’s easier to fend off vultures through the power of superior numbers.

Figuratively speaking, we tend to seek out and be attracted to those who have similar qualities to ourselves. Think of having the same ethics, values, likes and dislikes, and similar beliefs. This even holds true on a physical level, as beautiful people are inclined to be drawn to other good-looking individuals.

We enjoy those who share similar beliefs and lean to dislike others who have opinions that conflict with our current belief system. That’s because these differences are typically perceived as a personal attack on our character.

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How to stop being naive

Naivety means showing a general lack of real-life experience, judgment, or wisdom due to going through too few life events.

As a result, gullible people are the perfect victim to fall prey to individuals looking to misuse them for their gain since they don’t recognize the surrounding threats.

That’s why I compiled the following list to learn how to stop being naive, so we can protect ourselves from those who are looking to take advantage of us.

— Be cautious.
— Be present in the moment.
— Practice objectivity.
— Do your research.
— Engage in active listening.
— Talk less, listen more.
— Seek out novel experiences.
— Be alert.
— Learn to read others.
— Travel more.
— Meet people from different backgrounds.
— Have confidence in your abilities.
— Learn to recognize signs of dishonesty.
— Volunteer.
— Get out of your comfort zone.
— Think before acting.
— Don’t ignore your gut feeling.
— Continue to trust people, despite possible setbacks.

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Why like attracts like-minded people

Ever wondered why positive people tend to attract optimistic individuals and negativity tends to breed, and draw in pessimistic folks? It’s because like attracts like-minded people.

Let me explain why that’s the case.

— What you give, you receive.
— We dislike and repel different mindsets while attracting like-minded attitudes.
— We search for similar qualities in others.
— Energy attracts.

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How to stop being defensive

The best things to do to stop being defensive are:

— Understanding what triggers you.
— Anticipating your triggers.
— Not automatically assuming the worst.
— Not taking things personally.
— Practicing a continuous growth mindset.
— Being compassionate.
— Practicing active listening.
— Setting boundaries.
— Asking how you can aid.
— Taking responsibility.
— Seeking out clarifications.
— Fixing the concerns.
— Remind yourself of your values.
— Seeing criticism as a chance to grow.
— Not starting criticizing back out of pettiness.
— Remaining calm.
— Not interrupting others.
— Accepting other people’s perspectives.
— Knowing your limits.

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20 Signs you’re complaining too much

These are the 20 most common signs that you’re complaining too much:

— You’re constantly complaining.
— People are pointing out that you complain a lot.
— You’re venting without finding, or even trying to find solutions.
— You ruminate a lot.
— People avoid you.
— You always see the glass as half empty.
— You’re typically in a negative mood.
— You have a negative outlook on life.
— You claim that you’re simply being realistic.
— You’re irritable after venting.
— You spend a lot of time with other complainers.
— You surround yourself with negative people.
— You’re too hard on yourself.
— Everything has to be perfect, it’s never good enough.
— You feel hopeless and helpless.
— You tend to dwell on what happened in the past.
— You think of problems instead of solutions.
— You compare yourself to others too much.
— You don’t handle compliments well.
— You think everyone’s out to get you.

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The quote, “life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” By George Bernard Shaw.

Why life is about creating yourself instead of finding yourself

Life is about creating yourself instead of finding yourself for a couple of main reasons:

— We’re born imperfect.
— Not all our value is predetermined by birth.
— Life is difficult, and we have to develop ourselves.
— We have to learn many lessons.
— Failure and mistakes are required to get better.

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Why there is no progress if there is no struggle in life

If there is no struggle, there is no progress means that difficulties and challenging times are necessary if we wish to develop ourselves because they motivate, and force us to improve.

That’s because hardships are uncomfortable and anxiety-provoking. These are sensations that we wish to avoid by actively bettering ourselves to the point where we can deal with these situations more effectively.

Here’s why there is no progress if there is no struggle:

— Struggle means we have to progress to deal with the situation.
— Provides ample opportunities to learn.
— We learn more from difficult circumstances than easy times.
— We gain valuable new insights.
— Struggle allows us to figure out what doesn’t work.
— We have to think critically and self-reflect to solve the issue.

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Why we control our own fate in life

I believe that we control our fate and destiny. Up until a certain point that is.

While I do think that we can influence a lot more in our lives than most of us realize, all of us are still limited by the natural limitations placed upon us from birth by our genes.

For instance, someone with an average IQ is unlikely to become a Nobel Prize winner, just like someone very short will probably never play at the highest level of basketball.

Still, that doesn’t mean that the average Joe can’t do a lot of good in the world, and improve their knowledge, nor that the shorter people can’t become proficient at basketball by honing their skills.

It simply means that a portion of our existence is predetermined by factors we can’t control. Not to mention that chance plays a role as well in the form of fortune and bad luck.

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Why failure is the stepping stone to success

Most people view failure as something they can’t possibly live down, and as something so negative that they should avoid it at all cost.

Yet, failure is the stepping stone to success since it motivates us to learn new things, allows us to figure out what doesn’t work, and because it teaches us to evolve to deal with these difficulties.

Here’s why:

— Motivates us to learn.
— By figuring out what doesn’t work.
— Develops essential skills such as discipline, perseverance, and working hard.
— It’s a natural part of life.
— It takes pressure to build a diamond.

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Guest posts

Depression and Self-Compassion: Cultivating Kindness and Understanding

In today’s fast-paced world, the shadow of depression looms larger than ever, affecting millions of lives globally. This silent battle, often hidden behind smiles, calls for a deeper understanding and a powerful ally: self-compassion.

As we journey through this article, we’ll uncover the profound relationship between depression and self-compassion, unveiling the transformative potential of self-kindness and understanding.

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