Success. An elusive entity that’s chased by many, but obtained by few.

And while we often don’t see it happening with our own eyes, successful people have usually tasted defeat many times before getting a taste of success. As the road towards prosperity is a wobbly, and difficult one.

But if failure is the pillar of success, then perseverance is the key to attainment.

Today we’ll be exploring how failure and hardship can lead to success. Let’s get started.

Hyper awareness can be both an advantage, and a liability.

For example, someone can be hypervigilant of their social surroundings, allowing them to read the different social interactions and social relationships better than other people can.

However, hyper self awareness might subject that person to an increased amount of negative thoughts, emotions, and as a result, create certain mental disorders such as depression and anxiety.

Can you imagine having to think about every little thing that you do from your waking moment until you go to bed?

We would get overwhelmed by the various stimuli we would experience by constantly living inside our own heads. Living constantly in our own mind would be too mentally draining to keep up. Luckily for us, it doesn’t take all that long before a habit becomes automatic.

Let me explain why the importance of habits can’t be overstated.

Controlling our emotions is hard, but learning how to control your thoughts to feel happier is possible for everyone.

Our emotions are rarely given the attention they deserve. Even though figuring out what those feelings mean and why we are experiencing them in a certain way might help us to understand ourselves better.

While our feelings can’t be controlled directly, we can learn to accept them, and realize that positive and negative feelings will continue to come and go our whole life since that’s part of life. Even more, we can learn how to control our thoughts to feel happier.

We live in a time and age where society often deems it egoistical and selfish to put our own needs and desires before those of others. Putting others before yourself is seen as a positive, even desirable personality trait.

Yet, I’m advocating for everyone to generally put their own needs first, and the other’s second to satisfy your own needs and desires. Otherwise, you become angry, jealous, and vengeful of others. And that’ll help nobody.

That’s why you should start putting yourself first more frequently.

“A good man is not a harmless man. A good man is a dangerous man who has it under voluntarily control.”

This quote really sets the tone as to how I view this topic. There’s no virtue in being kind out of weakness, or because you don’t know how to do anything else. Ideally, being a good person is a choice

Let me explain why there’s a difference between being good out of choice vs. out of weakness.

The victim mentality is a common occurrencThe victim mentality is a common occurrence, especially in modern times since people misuse it as a tool to garner attention and external validation. However, beggars can’t be choosers. That’s why it’s best to take control over your own life rather than blaming others or external sources.

We all know someone in our lives who never takes fault when something goes wrong, even when they’re clearly the one to blame.

That person in your life is most likely seeing and portraying themselves as the unfortunate soul, which is detrimental for their own wellbeing and success. This is how to get rid of the victim mindset.

We go through the cycle of grief and loss whenever we experience a tragic event. No matter how small, and in what area of life this traumatic episode happens.

We can feel sorrow over physical pain, but also over emotional traumatic experiences and losses. We can even feel them both at the same time.

Let me explain what the 5 stages of grief are in order.